Violence in relationships

[Delbáeth]

Originally Posted by gazumpiro

I voted no.

But when it happens, I am not sure about self-defence.

I disagree with the argument that a man should never hit a woman. Why not? Should a strong man never hit a weaker man by the same token? Sometimes people deserve it. Being female is no excuse.

Well i'm not one for having to go around beating up weaker and smaller people than my self. If you that's how you get yer kicks, well batter in. If you wish to use the self defence card then I doubt someone smaller and weaker than me is going to try and fight me.

[Lutiferre]

Originally Posted by Susi

Finally, it is not feminist and sexist to not want some huge bloody man beat the living daylights out of me because I "deserved" it. That excuse has already been used with me and it was a poor one (of course maybe not cooking the steak to the exact pinkness desired is an offense to be punished). ^^

Well, I didnt imply sexism was necessarily wrong. Like racism, I believe it is a reality, and I am not referring to discrimination, but the reality .. and significance/importance of sexual roles. Equality is a joke.

But I basically agree, and I didnt mean that women should get beatings by strong and violent men, whenever they deserve it. That being said, if a strong woman (oh, they exist, I've seen a couple of extremely masculine weight lifting women, that could kick my ass) beats the hell out of a weaker man, then I wont blame him for hitting her in self defense.

Same, if a woman swings a baseball bat at me.

[Susi]

I agree mostly with what you have to say, Lutiferre... though on equality, I am unsure.

It depends completely on the definition of equality. But basically women are not men and this should not be so. But I do like the right to vote. ^^

[Martín Zalacaín]

Originally Posted by Susi

I agree mostly with what you have to say, Lutiferre... though on equality, I am unsure.

It depends completely on the definition of equality. But basically women are not men and this should not be so. But I do like the right to vote. ^^

What for?

[Vincent]

Originally Posted by Susi

Men fight all the time with each other, at least how I've observed, but they forgive each other right after (if they are acquaintances or friends). It is a bonding ritual, per se, for men to fight another (in this case).

I had my last real fight some 6 (or more) years ago. And so did all of my friends, or males I know. Sayin that man fight all the time and calling it a ritual is nonsense.

We are agresive pigs, and you are the heavenly creatures, of course.

Btw, one question for you. You have a smaller and weaker woman, and a taller and stronger male. He must not touch her, under any circumstances (like you pointed out). So, if she is in the mood (anger maybe?) does it mean she can beat him to death, or? What is he supposed to do? Run until he finds a police officer who is smaller then the femalle who chaises him, that being the onyl way to protect the guy, by using force. And by force I don't mean your " beat the living daylights out of me".

It sounds silly, yes, but what you've said isn't better, believe me.

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My opinion on this is clear. I would never be violent against someone weaker than me. When someone is equal strong, no matter man or woman, and he/she starts first, I'd use force.

I'd also never use violence in a relationship, no matter if my partner (woman) is stronger than me or it. She is my partner, I've chosen her, and that's it. If she becomes too agresive, I'd sue her, and let the judge decide.

[Susi]

Originally Posted by Gonzalvus

What for?

Political issues. Referenda, municipal elections, provincial elections, and national elections.

Unless I'm less of a person and can't possibly form a political opinion and then use this opinion to case a vote... my poor little brain might overheat, no?

Originally Posted by Hohenheim

I had my last real fight some 6 (or more) years ago. And so did all of my friends, or males I know. Sayin that man fight all the time and calling it a ritual is nonsense.

It's anthropology.

I don't mean in the case of fights among friends like real fights. More like playfighting. It was a general observation put into anthropological terms. Sue me. :p

We are agresive pigs, and you are the heavenly creatures, of course.

Most of the time, men are stronger and bigger so therefore more of a threat than a tiny girl like me. Then again people seem to be afraid of me. It's probably my glasses or something.

Btw, one question for you. You have a smaller and weaker woman, and a taller and stronger male. He must not touch her, under any circumstances (like you pointed out). So, if she is in the mood (anger maybe?) does it mean she can beat him to death, or? What is he supposed to do? Run until he finds a police officer who is smaller then the femalle who chaises him, that being the onyl way to protect the guy, by using force. And by force I don't mean your " beat the living daylights out of me".

No, I already said I agreed on Phlegethon's circumstances and those all fall under it. Self defense is fine, as long as this self defense is reasonable. Probably the smaller and weaker woman won't do much damage to the taller and stronger man anyways, but he could probably bat her away like a fly. It doesn't mean he can beat her to death back (like you said), just to restrain her and prevent her from causing harm to herself and others.

It sounds silly, yes, but what you've said isn't better, believe me.

I basically agree with you anyways so I guess we're both really silly ^^

My opinion on this is clear. I would never be violent against someone weaker than me. When someone is equal strong, no matter man or woman, and he/she starts first, I'd use force.

Perfectly acceptable.

[Strengthandhonour]

Small women might not do physical damage..but they can do damage when they start throwing household objects. Like the time my dad came home drunk and my mom threw a VCR at him.

[Sergius]

Going by this poll, violence in relationships is a...Slavic thing.

[M.R.]

Actually is 4 Slavs for Yes, 5 for No and 2 for Undecided.

[Monolith]

Originally Posted by Faustas

Going by this poll, violence in relationships is a...Slavic thing.

Well, we do like it rough sometimes..

[Menydh]

Originally Posted by Faustas

Going by this poll, violence in relationships is a...Slavic thing.

Well.. it points more to a balkanic kind of thing, if going by the poll.

But it depends on the direction. I mean, what if it were woman on man?

[Sergius]

No Balkanic women voted yes. Don't you know how to read polls, Mynydd?